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  by devildogg824

  HEY THXS 4THE ADD
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  by minklemankle

  I read your reply to Jules and I don't want you to have to go into all that again because of my prev. post. Just want to say that you are not finished changing. I know. I've been there done that!! xoxo
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  by minklemankle

  Hi Dominique, I just wanted to say that I agree with Jules. It sounds like you are a grown woman if you have a grown daughter. That means you should be able to think for yourself. Suppressing who you really are is just going to lead to depression. Sometimes its better to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission. I just went and got my tat. I told my husband afterward. It wasn't because I don't respect him or because I was being "rebellious" it is just my decision. It wasn't something that I really needed to ask permission for. I know you are probably afraid that you will ruin your relationship if you just go out and get one and that is not what I want you to do but I just think that in a relationship there are things that you are together on and then there are still parts of your life that are still just yours or just his. You don't give up who you are and he doesn't give up who he is. You become better because you are together. Sorry this was so long.
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  by saddlerat

  Just poppin by to say “Hey” and have a kickin ass weekend!
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  by jules

  Hi again Dominique;

  I'm glad you didn't take offense at my nosiness! that's the great thing about girls, don't you think? that we can feel empathy/compassion for someone we don't even know, and reach out a hand to help. a guy would have thought i was trying to control you, which wasn't the case at all! My hurt is still too much on the surface(i only moved out 3 months ago), so of course I saw your situation as being like mine, and I wanted to warn you of the pitfalls so you wouldn't get hurt too. Thanks for understanding and not getting pissed off about it! And thanks for the add!
  peace and blessings, jules
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  by jules

  Hi Dominique;

  my almost-ex husband doesn't like tattoos either, and i had to beg for mine, and then "earn" them on dares. My first one i earned by getting up and singing at a karaoke bar, which scared me to death, as i'm pretty shy and can't sing at all. i sang jimmy buffett's "why dont we get drunk and screw", so folks would laugh with me and not at me. The second one i earned by jumping off of a cliff in Hawaii...talk about scary!! my 3rd one i didn't need to ask permission for...it's my declaration of independence. i finally got up the courage to get out of a relationship with a man whom i love very much, but who was also keeping me down, and not letting me grow, not letting me express myself as the person i truly am, rather than the person he wants me to be. i'm telling you this not to pry into your affairs, but as a friend, because your comment on saddlerat's page about your boyfriend "not letting (or not wanting)" you to get a tattoo sent a warnring signal off in my head and in my heart. I spent 27 years suppressing myself, and in the end my marriage failed anyway. just take care, my friend, if your boyfriend truly loves you, would he not love all of the expressions of the real you? your body belongs to you, and you alone, if those wings will make your spirit soar then you go and get them! if he loves you for real, a little ink won't make a difference, and the pleasure you take in your wings should give him pleasure as well. just something to think about from someone who has been there, done that.
  peace and blessings, jules :)
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  by saddlerat

  thanx 4 the add ..got any ink
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  by wildchild

  Thanx for the ad, and welcome to the site.

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